This happened a couple more times over the next few months, at which point I went to my manager to let her know this was impacting my health and work and to see if it would be possible to find a resolution. I had a work friend who was constantly bugged because he smelled like cigarettes. Period, full stop. Pretty certain the vent was the culprit as once we moved to a different area she didn't emit nearly as much noise. I dont have smell sensitivities, and I have a terrible sense of smell, and febreeze unscented gives me migraines. I love that Coppertone smell! It helps keep dye from washing out of fabric, but it can also set a stain instead of removing it. I think OPs complainer is being kind of a jerk. If the co-worker was a jerk about it I might get dramatic and fling myself to the floor and wail, what more do you want from me? But thats really better left for fantasy, I suppose. If I had to start changing out my entire home routine to unscented products and avoiding incense and oils at home just to avoid bringing them into the office well chances are Id probably start stinking like cat. I hesitated, but in the end, I just couldnt ride in such a small box with him smelling like that. Maybe a (different) co-worker, in case the smell is lingering around the OPs work station as mentioned below. yeah, Ive always associated with stoner culture more than hippies or POC to be honest. This was my second reaction (after the first, which was sympathy for OP!). Ive had this happen with arm rests and scented lotions. At this point, Im starting to feel like youre just looking for an excuse to complain about me. Someone in my major (I wasnt in that class) actually got up and punched someone recovering from a particularly long coldI spent the last two years of college avoiding classes with him, especially when he punched some other person for another sound-related reason! I do agree your coworker is being rude. If this were me, I would tell coworker Ive done what I can and she can take it to the boss or HR if she feels more should be done. take a deep breath (through your mouth): The cause of chronic sniffling is as others mentioned, is not fine. Last week I walked past a spot where an older lady had gotten out of her car and I could barely breathe for the perfume smell. I am sensitive to fragrance. I have a number of co-irkers that I want to tell Nice perfume/cologne must you bathe in it? but I dont, because its merely obnoxious, and Im not a jerk. 1. I was thinking the same thing! If a coworker takes your idea and uses it as though they came up with it, without . Happily it stops when I lay-down so sleeping is ok. Also it stops from time to time with out any reasonI try to analyse why but no results. Indicate gently, very gently, why it's a problem. My reaction is Hold on. Its a supervisors job to do that. It could be that the coworker hasnt realized they have the issue, not our delightful LW. I so rarely tell anyone if their perfume or whatever bothers me (especially since it is often some other product that it scentedpeople who use scented detergents can smell really strongly to me) because it seems so loaded. I understand that fragrances can be bothersome (I dont like many of them myself), but the coworker needs to define whether this goes beyond plain bothersome into I-cannot-concentrate territory. I do feel for people who can barely leave their homes due to their sensitivities, even if Im not convinced everyones hygiene regimen should revolve around them. So, cutting out caffeine completely helped a lot, but doesn't help completely. One, about patchouli just dont. I happen to like scents like patchouli, but it is a strong scent, so perhaps its lingering someplace. I used to enjoy perfume, but now find that even the slightest hint of perfume or essential oil can trigger a bad headache. Another coworker can have an anaphylactic reaction to some scents. If she tries cornering you and directly accusing you, you just shrug your shoulders confused and say you dont know how you can help her solve her problem of the phantom scent. My boss solution was to buy her a fan that she could turn on while I was in the room to point at me to keep my stink away from her. Same when I was a bartender as a 2nd job. It's driving me crazy at times. To be fair, the only thing Ive actually changed since she complained is not wearing the perfume. Instead, offer practical solutions that can fix the solution for everyone. Sneaky jerks. She makes the most awful noise. I started in the last year of primary school, I also drive my family insane and myself it's so irritating, it's as if I can't breathe and my nose is inflamed or tight and I need to sniff to clear it even though there's nothing there, it's really embarrassing and it tried loads of nasal sprays and even been to ent had a camera up my nose but he couldn't see anything. Now I don't know what to do. Youve done more than most people would. The advice is spot on. The co-worker in this situation is absolutely going about things unprofessionally, but as someone with scent sensitivity, I can sympathize. Reddit and its partners use cookies and similar technologies to provide you with a better experience. My mom swears up and down that baby powder smells like dirty diapers because she so strongly associates the two. I have a friend who I trade clothes with regularly when we get sick of stuff in our closet and I have to wash the clothes that come from her several times over before I can even stand to wear them, and several times over again before I cant smell it at all. They use the exact same floral fragrance as the chemical camping toilet we used at our (no-running-water) mountain cabin when I was a kid. It's a personal issue and you won't like it but it needs addressing and I don't want you to react badly OK? That scent in particular seems to really linger even if youre not specifically wearing it. They do have a smelllol. I understand having to accommodate a coworker with an ADA request (although correct me if Im wrong but I believe that would come directly from the company and likely wouldnt require everyone to replace all scented everything they own because that seems like an unreasonable accommodation) but in this case its a coworker who is ceaselessly complaining about the OPS existence rather than her actual scent, based on the steps shes taken. A Critical Coworker - 5 Reasons Why Here are 5 reasons why your coworker is so critical of you: They Don't Like You Too Controlling Genuine Advice Habit Too Smart In this section we will explain why your fellow worker has that irritating habit of always poking their nose into your work and pointing out something they don't like! Could you ask your coworker what products she uses and see if thats suitable for you? I wonder if you can narrow it down to a certain article of clothing that really has held onto the smell. Non-allergic rhinitis. Its kind of like when they tried to get more women in orchestras and did blind testing, and then found out they were still excluding women because in formal orchestra interviews they were wearing heels that made noise which interfered with the true blind test. All the advice about deep cleaning all bedding and coats and switching detergents and shampoos and the like is baffling. But that doesnt seem to be what the OP is dealing with just now, so she may need to change from the reasonable adult playbook to the dealing with a bully playbook. I had to go see the ombudsman and talk to HR, but nothing helped. My coworker walks in after 8:00 a.m. every single day. They had everyone take their shoes off and the participation of women increased dramatically. Luckily for the me vs. scent sensitivity problem a lot of added fragrances give me issues as well so generally you cannot smell any of my stuff unless youre WAY up in my personal space. Hopefully she can get her coworker to stop! Never blows his nose, or uses a tissue Its very distracting, and personally I find it disgusting. Its just her dryer sheets, but it lingers for several months. Although such handbooks often outline appropriate and inappropriate behavior, it's common knowledge that a bodily function such as loud burping is inappropriate. Scents like patchouili do linger and seem to wed to clothes. I only tried it in my hair once years ago, though. Haha, Im not sure if this is a good idea, but I love it. We go out to eat Mexican food at least once a week, and each time I remind him at least once to chew his chips with his mouth closed. Febreeze is the worst. I supervise a manager who falsified an employee write-up but I dont think she should be fired, getting out of shared intern housing, why are so many executives condescending, and more, interviewer fake-rejected me to see if I would fight for the job. Thank goodness for this opinion. The reason to ask someone who doesnt live with you is that we can stop smelling things after a while, so a partner or roommate might not be able to smell it either. Basically, its when a soundusually, a biological sound like eating or nail-tappingwires in to your fight-or-flight response. Quit smoking entirely during the working day? Press question mark to learn the rest of the keyboard shortcuts. (As an irrelevant aside, one time I actually WAS right and I DID smell pee because the little expletive deleted peed INTO A FAN so there wasnt any visible mess, just a magical pee smell blower. Single. spreading sexual rumors about an employee, or repeated hugs or other unwanted touching (such as a hand on an employee's back). OP, it sounds like your coworker is just a jerk. Im not allowed to wear headphones at work, but occasionally when the boss is out I sneakily put some on anyway and I can hear her sniffling even with white noise, pink noise, and any kind of music at full blast. Agreed. And it smelled *horrible* and wouldnt come out; I tried vinegar and Oxi-clean after about five washes and that seemed to help. Your coworkers shoot you irritated looks as you clear your throat (again). Exactly my thought. Its not bad, its just hey, you smell like your mom. It doesnt smell nice on me, but my husband used to wear it and I loved it. Toxic coworkers are, first and foremost, predominantly selfish individuals. Yeah, she sounds like a jerk who wants things her way all the time. Or shes a meanieface whos decided youre a smelly hippie, shes grown to anticipate the smell and shes decided to tease you about your smell even if it isnt there. Theres no way that none of them have even one Powder Fresh or Ocean Breeze or Fresh Cotton or Freesia Delight product in their lives. I couldnt smell it approaching the rack, but it was very apparent in my home. I have 3 co-workers now who smoke, but hate how they smell after they smoke, so they take perfume showers in their cubes 3x/day. I think its one of those scents that everyones nose interprets differently. Everyone . Yeah. It can be very painful and isolating to have this kind of sensitivity. I am not moving again. Sometimes I get a whiff of white vinegar (we used it in the water under the hot trays) or that orange chicken sauce smell and feel grossed out. Im a smoker, and I have been for several decades now. Even assuming theres a real medical reason for this (and thats a leap on the presented facts) accommodation is on the employer, not fellow employees. This fear of imperfection keeps the Rooster on the fence. Jerk. It sounds like your coworker is a drama llama and shes in the wrong. Ive started turning music on while we eat as a distraction, even though I usually find background noise annoying, I just requested a two-sided headset to replace my one-sided one so it will fully block the sound of a cubicle neighbor slurping on lollipops and tapping them against her teeth. OMG! I was offering it up as a suggestions just because if it were me Id be curious. I can understand wanting to be considerate, but doesnt one still have the right to wear perfume on the weekends or burn incense? (and frankly, it is no longer OPs problem to address. REAL CUNT indeed. Toronto-based journalist William McCoy has been writing since 1997, specializing in topics such as sports, nutrition and health. I also switch my perfume up pretty often, so its not like I have one scent that Im repeating every day. Q: Someone who sits near me (who I don't work with directly) has the most annoying habits. Sounds like this is a common bullying tactic. ! the coworker is trying to make some kind of mean-spirited point. Yeah, this is a good point. Theres a lot of people here with many suggestions on how to work with your co-worker to stamp out any lingering smells. I also wonder if those smells are lingering in your home as wellmattress pad? :( Its not a fun boat to be in, and she has it worse than I did. When she complained, I told her she could either get a doctors note and take it HR, she could quit, or she could go pound sand. In recent years, Ive developed a strong sensitivity to certain smells. My bosses and I came up with some unique ways to handle my problem until I finally got a remote job for the same company. I definitely see making a reasonable effort to make sure you are not having a negative impact on the people in your work space. update: is my future manager a bigoted jerk? I get the sense that this issue of sensitivity to smells is very cultural. If I were in this spot, I swear at this point I would assume shes only doing this to bother me. Let go of the guilt. Some scents are that pervasive. Chicken is the reason I gave up vegetarianism after 7 years and I honestly could go without any other meat lamb is nice, steak is good occasionally. Youre not the only one that has had that thought. Whatever brand they use has a very off putting smell. Yeah, I get not bringing scents into the workplace and all, and Id try to be cognizant of it, but I love patchouli and I have a serious smell problem I need to deal with at home that I use a lot of incense and scented oils for (and patchouli is one of the smells I use specifically because its strong enough to deal with it). Yeah, I use some pretty cheap shampoo/conditions (yay Suave!) But she is still complaining and making snarky, belittling comments that seem out of place in a professional workplace. DEAR DEIDRE: THE woman who sits behind me at work makes disgusting snorting noises all the time and it is driving me mad. Hopefully your boss can accommodate and move her, or you?? I think they probably picked the maple-nut ice cream because it wasnt a flavor they were going to randomly run into between the initial exposure and the aversion test a few weeks later, but it was nice enough that kids would actually voluntarily choose it in the first place. It was little facts about her here and there at first but it built up to him mentioning her 10 times in one day, which is when I broke down and talked to him about how uncomfortable it made me. The place sold those cinnamon-scented pine cones and she was right at the front where they were stocked. YES! Yes, I think this is a big difference too. There shouldnt be any fragrances lingering around. You can smell her a mile away. I also let them know Im ever so grateful they are taking my health concerns seriously. Patchouli is a fairly distinctive scent, particularly as a fragrance oil, which smells absolutely nothing like lemon. Diversion. Consideration and empathy cut both ways. I really wish that my coworker would get sent home too. I think considerate coworkers like you should do what they can to help out other coworkers, but at the same time, you shouldnt have to give up something you enjoy using in your free time because of a work conflict. I have coworkers who occasionally wear scents, but we work in different areas, and I only have to endure the smell during the elevator ride, etc. Theres a way to deal with this coworker head on, which involves a level of comfort with direct confrontation that not everyone has. yup, havent eaten bananas since I was about 5. I will say re: patchouli that its a particularly lingering fragrance. (One of the worst smells for me is certain types of cigarette smoke: I dislike all of them, but some brands trigger a sinus headache, or a migraine if Im around them too long. OP has done a lot already and coworker is just being snarky. About a month ago, one of my coworkers told me that the perfume I was wearing bothered her. Or she hates the smell of all shampoo. The air is fine. Im not, and Ive told her Im not. Its really hard to find an average drug store might have one type of unscented shampoo for babies. Freshly applied perfume, sure, thats reasonable to ask people not to do. I stopped wearing it to work when you asked me to. or just Nope, not me. and then either ignore the co-worker or go on talking about the TPS reports or whatever. :). Its Bully 101 to push and push and push until the victim explodes, and then so and so blew up at me for NO REASONoh, poor me. Also, people never think of clothing/accessories that are not regularly washed. I would be saying you have a problem with the smell of soap and water? For instance, I became a super-smeller when I was pregnant, and lots of things suddenly started to smell vile to me. Are they the only three people in the workplace? I would follow Allisons advice and go to HR with her to see how to accommodate her sensitivity. I doubt shes likely to react well to someone suggesting this possibility. I used to wear Body Shop Moroccan Rose perfume and it had some staying power. How To Deal With A Coworker That's Interested In You Take action to lessen the importance of your achievements or how you realized4 your accomplishments. Colds typically go away on their own after about a week. Idk why he doesn't use a tissue. This is my biggest hurdle. You can do what you can to not overtly smell of fragrance, but I would be pissed if a coworkers extremely sensitive nose caused my employer to change my lifestyle so drastically outside of work. Do you think you could calmly sit there for another 10 minutes and go into detail about what the smoke and fire will do to you?}. I worked with someone who really didnt like one of our co-workers so she was constantly making mean comments about this person scent and appearance. I actually find the smell of patchouli very pleasant, but I do recognize that a lot of people have negative associations with it. The best you can do is ask people to be considerate. When it was first released it was blissfully unscented, actually eliminated scents rather than covering them. I recommend using those products only with direction from your doctor., Nasal obstruction. I understand that some people are extra-sensitive to smell and truly need to be accommodated, but its possible to be extra-sensitive and yet not act like the Perfume Police to ones coworkers, particularly a coworker who has already gone to significant lengths to mitigate any ill effects. Ive eaten Moes only once since that year. About 75% of Smelly Things gives me a headache, so I have a slight aversion as well. I'd excuses myself and if boss asked why I'd say I can't be near someone who sniffles or. Oh, Jager I cant be near it. Youve really gone out of your way to accommodate her, and she truly cant expect (or reasonably ask) for more. And certain West African men wear cologne. To me it really just sounds like coworker is trying to make something out of that and mocking OP with the old smelly hippie stereotype. I don't know what I would do without them some days. Shes done more than is reasonable. If you have a sniffling toddler, youll definitely want to check that a blueberry or a bead didnt magically make its way up a nostril. One option would be to talk to your manager. Or florals or vanilla or whatever. I find scents in my own home to very relaxing I would do what I can not to bring them into work, but I cannot control for another person never coming into contact with a fragrance molecule to this degree. Its easy to say to OP to be bold and confront her directly but if youre like me and just dont have that type of personality, sometimes other solutions can be helpful. 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